Isn't that how its SUPPOSED to be?

Unconditional............love, friendship, understanding.......... not very common in today's date and time..............yet i found unconditional affection at the most unexpected of places. My little Dog taught me what unconditional love is.........really.........I know how it sounds, but its true. We all have our phases, times when things don't really look so great, there are times we just hang our heads..........and well, lets just say we don't really make an effort to stop the tears that are just so eager to come at such times. Its no uncommon knowledge that I am a little more sensitive than the average person, and so, I know such times a little better than most other ppl around. Every time I have felt low, every time i have sat alone and felt things are just so wrong, i have felt something furry push my arm aside and climb up my lap, talk to me the best it can with barks and whimpers and make an attempt to lick my tears away. I know this is Ginger's way of telling me that its okay, and if isn't it will be...........I'm here, see? most dogs will snap at you if you accidentally step on them or deliver an unwitting kick to the poor canine.......ITS A REFLEX ACTION!......My Ginger has a habit of waiting outside closed doors when I am within, and in the process has received more than a fair share of ouches! but EVERY single time that has happened, NEVER has he turned on me, to snap at me, even as a reflex! get this, he comes and starts LICKING me........letting me pet him back..........how can an animal overcome his reflexes, overcome the pain when a door nicks him and just KNOW it wasn't intended..........that it was AN ACCIDENT, AND HE LOVES ME AND I LOVE HIM BACK AND THAT'S WHAT WILL MAKE THE OUWIE OKAY??????!!!!!???????!!!!!! These are not just anecdotes from a ginger obsessed nut.........which I'm known to be. These cute little things have a much deeper undercurrent to them. The deal here is........My little Ginger, who, lets not forget........is after all, a DOG............seems to know the basics of love and friendship way more than most PEOPLE today!

When did we people become so intolerant? SPECIALLY of the people we claim to love and care so much about? whatever happened to giving the other person the benefit of doubt, just KNOWING that they care too much to ever really MEAN to hurt us? Is it so that a 7 kilo furball knows better than we do? really? a little cutie whose highlight of the day is a spin in the car barking at the neighborhood dogs?

I have seen failed relationships...........not just the mushy BF GF deals..............relationships between siblings, parents and children, friends............. just for the lack of this basic understanding. Its not brain-surgery really.......how hard can it be?

Ginger really got me thinking...........I'm 25..........One third of my life has passed me by.............I've started making that change, before its way too late :)

Though I must make a note here that I am lucky enough to be blessed with a few people wround who DO understand.............who are there unconditionally, who know the value of a true friend, of true loyalty and true commitment. People who appreciate the rarity of the phenomenon and therefore, cherish it. I have been lucky enough to have people around me who have blessed me with the best feeling ever- KNOWING YOUR BEST FRIENDS ARE STANDING BY YOUR SIDE, THEY'VE GOT YOUR BACK, EVEN WHEN THAY KNOW YOU'RE BLOODY WRONG! 

Someone really close to me said something a few days ago while i was telling funny stories about her in front of someone she'd just met, I know she may not remember this, and I know to the rest of the world may find it trivial............but it made an impact on me which most people may never truly fathom..........when asked - you guys really don'y have any conditions between you do you? she said "ISN'T THAT HOW ITS SUPPOSED TO BE?"

P.S.- I KNOW THIS IS MUSHY.....................BUT THATS SERIOUSLY HOW I'VE BEEN FEELING..........AND ITS ALL TRUE ISN'T IT?

IF

IF

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And—which is more—you'll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling